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| This section is delicate to our little angels who did not survive the outside world, they however touched many life's and we are proud to share their stories with you.
(Tertia Albertyn released a book detailing her journey and loss - please view her web site - www.tertia.org)
A Loss For Words
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 | Acknowledge the parents’ loss. When
a multiple dies, parents not only lose a child, but the unique opportunity
to raise twins, triplets or more. Recognize this loss. Some good things to
say: "I’m sorry," or "I’m here and I want to
listen." If parents named the baby, use the name. Even though one child
is missing, parents often consider themselves fathers or mothers of the
original set; refer to the survivors as the original number
("triplets," even if two survived). |
| Find helpful resources. Locate
bereavement support groups and literature for parents who probably don’t
have the energy to seek help. |
| Give a gift. When
giving a new-baby present, take along a gift that acknowledges the loss.
Thoughtful ideas include a figurine of animals or children that affirms
parenthood of all the babies, a memorial tree for planting, or a donation to
a bereaved parents’ group. |
| Think before you speak.
Though perhaps well intentioned, avoid making comments that could cause
painful feelings, such as: "At least you have another baby," or
"It would have been too hard to raise quadruplets anyway." |
| Remember the baby. Send a card, small gift or call on holidays and anniversaries of the baby’s birth and death. |
Resource: http://www.preemieparents.com/
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